Finding Your Way Home: Three Steps to Reclaiming Joy
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Chapter 1: The Journey Back to Yourself
Have you ever felt lost, sad, or disheartened? If so, here are three strategies to help alleviate that pain.
Tip One: Return to Your Roots
On a recent drive back from a family gathering, my son remarked, “I prefer our house because it feels like home.” His innocent observation came after I had lamented about my low salary as a teacher and expressed envy over my brother's stunning home, which looks like it belongs in a magazine. My brother's residence boasts impressive cathedral ceilings, a dream outdoor fire pit, and a pool that outshines many beachfront resorts.
Hearing my son's preference for our home filled me with joy. I realized that despite my many parenting missteps, I had managed to create a space where he feels secure and comfortable. This moment was a profound reminder that true happiness is found when we consistently feel "at home."
Be at Home in Your Body
Isn't it absurd that we stress over fitting into a certain size in a world filled with significant challenges? Indeed, it is.
However, I admit that I, along with countless others, grapple with this issue. It's not about the size itself, but rather the importance of feeling comfortable in our skin. Body confidence significantly influences many people's happiness. Here are three strategies to cultivate that confidence:
- Embrace your body as it is.
- Work towards improving your body to enhance your self-perception.
- Pursue both acceptance and improvement simultaneously.
While some may argue that striving for aesthetic improvement capitulates to society's rigid beauty standards, I hold a different view. For my happiness, I need to feel at ease in my body. Recently, I gained about ten pounds. While not overweight, those extra pounds made me feel less like myself. Although I appreciate my body for all it accomplishes, I longed to return to a state of contentment regarding my appearance.
Reflect on this: just as our emotions influence our physical state, our physical state can impact our emotions. Thus, it's crucial to make your body a "home" where you feel happy.
Be at Home in Your Actions
We all possess core values that shape our life philosophies. Identify the three qualities that matter most to you and rank them. For me, they are integrity, kindness, and achievement.
The only way to truly "feel at home" is to remain faithful to these values. As an aspiring writer, I occasionally feel tempted to compromise my principles, knowing full well the kind of sensationalism that sells. However, integrity is paramount to me. When I write with love, acceptance, and inspiration, I feel at home. To achieve happiness, I must align my actions with my beliefs, regardless of the challenges that may arise.
Be at Home in Your Relationships
At the beginning of relationships, it’s natural to try to impress your partner. Perhaps you dress a certain way or engage in activities to win their approval. While there's nothing wrong with this, there's a point where you must feel at home in your relationship.
You should be able to wear comfy clothes without worrying about your partner’s opinion. If you find yourself compromising your happiness or suppressing your emotions to maintain harmony, it’s a sign you're not truly at home. Leave that uncomfortable situation and seek a partner who allows you to be your authentic self, where love can flourish.
The Bottom Line
As Maya Angelou beautifully stated, “The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place to go as we are and not be questioned.” We all know where home lies—it's a space where we feel liberated and can curate our lives according to our true selves.
So, take that journey back to your inner sanctuary. I assure you’ll discover peace waiting for you. Remember, the door is wide open; you just need to step inside.
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